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If your horse is willing to say ‘NO’ somewhere it should be a red flag.

When I was young I belonged to a contesting club. We ran all kinds of speed events including barrel racing, pole bending and more. It was common, back then, for horses to refuse to go into the show pen. Maybe even more interesting…it was not only common, it was also accepted.

red flagOver all the years that I have trained horses, I have noticed that horses often go through many of the stages that children do when learning. With a human child we understand that there is a stage where ‘no’ is their favorite word. We also understand that as teenagers develop they will often push and test authority as they develop a stronger sense of who they are.

I think horses go through many of these stages too.

The biggest difference that I see is that we adults would not trust a defiant and testy child with things of high value. Yet, through a lack of knowledge or ability to recognize the issue many adults climb onto horses who are defiant and testy….trusting them with our lives.

No person, or horse, or dog is perfect but we should be aware that a willingness to defiantly say ‘NO’ should be considered a red flag.

What does the red flag point to? It could be many things; immaturity, lack of understanding, a questioning of authority, soreness or more. The first step in figuring out what is going on is to acknowledge the red flag.

 

 
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Posted by on May 15, 2015 in Life

 

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Trail riding in Ohio at Mohican State Park…bareback!

May in Ohio is a beautiful time to trail ride and one of my favorite places to go is Mohican State Park. Spring flowers and ferns are still sneaking up and because the leaves are not fully out yet it is possible to see further than you can in full summer. This day it was almost 85 degrees out but under the cover of the trees we stayed nice and cool.

One of my favorite parts of this ride are the multiple water crossings. The horses love to drink and play in the water before we head back up and down the many hills. This trip was also special because a good friend joined us and took her mare out for her first trail ride. I do have to admit that my pants were very wet and not very clean by the time I got done…and my inner legs were a bit sore…but I plan on doing it again as soon as possible!

 
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Posted by on May 11, 2015 in Life, Video

 

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Confusing terms people use around horses.

Are there terms that horse people use that confuse you?During a lesson the other day I said, “soften up” to the rider as she rounded the turn…and she immediately picked up on the reins to ‘soften’ her horse.

Houston, we have a problem.

I had intended for the rider to ‘soften’ her hands, to offer the horse a reward but my terminology wasn’t  clearly defined. The rider heard the word ‘soften’ and immediately associated the word with asking the horse to demonstrate softness and a willingness, to ask the horse to remove rigidity from its body.

This is one of the reasons why I encourage people to learn through two methods 1) follow one person’s program all the way through 2) study other peoples methods and figure out how they fit in with your understanding. Above all don’t punish your horse if you get confused. Also don’t punish your horse even if an instructor starts yelling at you in frustration.

Are there terms that you have heard that have confused you? Are there terms you have used that have confused others?

 
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Posted by on April 25, 2015 in Life

 

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Old habits vs new habits: in horses and in people

Most of us are at least somewhat aware of our own habits. You probably recognize that you have a routine when getting ready for bed each night or the way you fold your cloths. We become especially aware of those habits if someone interrupts or changes them. Where did you learn that habit? How strong is the habit? What would it take to change it?

Successful peopleIn the last six months I have done more trail riding than I did in the last ten years. It was an interesting revelation in my old habits vs my new ones. I would have guessed that the rider I have become in the last 25 years would be the rider that hit the trail…but no. The rider I was as a teen when I logged most of my trail riding hours quickly showed up. Habits that had been lying dormant for many years quickly surfaced. My knees hurt after only an hour or so in the saddle. How could this be? I regularly ride for many hours a day in an arena. Same horse. Same saddle.

Different rider.

The rider I was years ago was more of a passenger on trail rides, not an active rider. As soon as I was aware that my old habit had shown up I was able to switch and become a more active rider again but the point remains; unless changed in those setting the old habits are still there.

It was a fun adventure every time I went out on a trail. The old habits meeting the new habits in my body while my mind observed it all.

I was recently working a horse that I believe already has some ‘habits’ that she has learned. Early on in her training she was allowed to be excitable, fresh and emotional during the first part of each work session. She would eventually come around but I now suspect that this has become a habit with her. The biggest clue is that the first ten minutes of a workout she is ready to come unglued. Almost anything can set her off; a bag, a pole, or simply lunging. She expects to be crazy. Day after day as I work her I see a horse that really isn’t scared of the bag or the pole…but expects to be emotionally out of control for the first 10 minutes.

I didn’t start her but if I could go back I would have changed the pattern early on. This horse is carrying on the ‘pattern’ even though she isn’t really excited. Interesting food for thought.

Can you think of an area where you have habits that you do, only because you learned them early on…even though they don’t benefit you now?

 
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Posted by on April 23, 2015 in Life, Thought provoking, Video

 

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Free Download: Stacy Westfall and Barbra Schulte discuss Overcoming Fear

Ask yourself-What do you have control of-What do I love-Barbra SchulteFear is an emotion. We imagine harm in the future. That thought triggers physical changes: fast heartbeat, headache, irritability, rapid breathing, sweating, trembling, muscle tension and more. Most of us know these symptoms from personal experience…but did you know that you can train your emotions?

Last night Barbra and I spent almost two hours discussing the topic of fear. We opened with each of us telling a story about how fear had negatively affected our lives. The greatest part of sharing the story isn’t the negative side of what happened but the reality that a gold nugget of learning was hidden inside these tough times. I learned how to ‘release the outcome.’

Barbra shared how her experience helped her to find her own inner compass and ask 1) What do I have control of? and 2) What do I love?

Much of Barbra’s teaching is on training human emotion and I know from personal experience that one tip can make a huge difference.

Do you deal with fear? Did you miss the live seminar last night? Great news! You can listen to the whole thing right now at the click of a button. You might want to go ahead and download it…we talked and then answered questions for almost two hours!

Click here for a link to listen right now or download for later.

Be sure that you check out the free download in the top left corner called the “Relationship Roadmap” and if you liked what you heard and want to learn more about “Letting Go of What Other People Think” consider taking a look at Barbra’s Workshop designed to gently walk you through subtle shifts in how you think about yourself and your relationships.

 
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Posted by on April 22, 2015 in Life, Training, Video

 

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How much is one good tip worth? Why was Stacy running her fingers through Roxy’s mane?

can you train your emotions?Can you make yourself cry right now?

Cry.

Right now.

OK, now wipe your eyes and keep reading. What? You didn’t really cry? Why not?

What if I told you that if you turned your camera on right now and cried you would instantly win $1,000,000.00? Would you be able to cry for that?

The above conversation is one of two things that I remember the most from my first interaction with Barbra Schulte. She was a guest speaker at the University of Findlay when I was a student and she was teaching us about our emotions. Her point when she asked us about crying was to get us thinking about what it would take to call up an emotion. You have probably already figured out that if you wanted to cry you would first remember something that made you cry in the past. Then you could choose to harness that emotion. Could you do that with other emotions?

I said there were two things I remembered about Barbra’s talk. One was the example of ‘can you cry’ and the other was a tip she gave: train your body to respond in a certain way. The example she gave was that people often get nervous when they head into the show pen. What if you could touch your thumb and your middle finger together and feel relaxed? She suggested teaching our bodies during times of no stress (when you’re going to sleep, etc) that touching the fingers together was associated with relaxation, deep breathing, and clear thoughts.

I used that tip for many years when I was showing…and I still use it at times today. In reality I use versions of the tip every single time I show. Do you remember watching the ‘Live Like You Were Dyin’ video? Remember how I was running my fingers through Roxy’s mane? Yep, I was using that tip even then.

If you are interested in learning more about this way of thinking, join me tonight on the web where I will be interviewing Barbra on the topic of Overcoming Fear. It is a live event where you can type in questions in real time for us to answer. Here is the link to the event landing page: http://InstantTeleseminar.com/?eventid=68616228 Feel free to click on it now to get comfortable with how easy it is to join in. Who knows…maybe you will get one tip that will make a huge difference for you.

Tonight. 9:00 PM Eastern time, 8:00 PM Central, 7:00 PM Mountain, 6:00 PM Pacific

 
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Posted by on April 21, 2015 in Life, Video

 

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Side effect of snake bite on horse almost a year later.

snake bit horse nose crookedLast year on June 16 we were dealing with our first snake bit horse. You may remember the blog, complete with photos, documenting the whole process. As Hope, the horse that was bitten, was hanging her head out of the stall yesterday I snapped this photo and decided to do a follow up. I laugh when I see her because she has an innocent look…and a slightly crooked nose!

The only two signs she still has are 1) an altered growth ring on her hoof 2) a crooked nose.

The ring will be grown out soon but the nose…I’m not sure if it will ever be straight. Either way she is still cute!

 
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Posted by on April 18, 2015 in Life

 

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